Your Man Not Quite Right – Should You Stay Or Let Him Go?

Is it wrong to break up with a man you really like so much? Yes, when he just isn’t quite right for you. You can let go…Letting go is not that wrong. You know you have to end up the relationship. He has actually not cheated on you. Truly, you’re still very fond of him; you accord him respect and enjoys being with him. But deep inside of you, you refuse to give him that lifetime nod. It’s not just okay for you. This obviously is one of the most difficult breakups. Why? Because it’s hard to say good bye to someone who hasn’t wrong you in any way…and you knows it. Of course a relationship may not have to be terrible for you to want to end it. But if your gut tells you it’s okay to quit, take a deep breath and take note of the following:

Don’t procrastinate the evil day

Hey there might be countless reasons why you may be delaying it’s not going to work out any more discussion. Sure you don’t want to make him feel bad; being alone later terrifies you; you feel bad about quitting the relationship; you fears that you might not be opportune to have someone else again; few of your single friend tells you the dating scene is not easy; you considers haven put a reasonable amount of time into the relationship…and worse still, you fears that you might regret your action later.

Breaking up with someone who has not treated you bad in anyway is such a hard nut to crack. Hey you get to accept that it will be painful; there is no denying of it. But it’s the right thing to do. If he is not the one for you, you’re doing both of yourselves a favor by ending the relationship. In that way, you’re not wasting your own time. Why? It’s because you’re giving yourself the chance to meet someone new…and by this you’re also not wasting his time. Why would he have to settle for someone who is settling for less? You should try to think in the long term. By taking steps to end the relationship now rather than later, you’re being cruel to be kind.

Be honest with him

Honesty will always be the best bet when it comes to bowing out of a relationship. People appreciate honesty if it’s expressed with tact and sensitivity, because that way, they know where they stand. Hey don’t just reach for phone. You own the person a one-on-one explanation.

Yes, you may have to do this in order to soften the blow, preface the conversation by saying, ‘This is not easy for me because the last thing I want to do is hurt you’. “Tell him you care about him deeply, but he is not the person you want to commit to for the rest of your life.” Do not focus on your past together or what you believe went wrong with the relationship. This might push him to try to put more time in trying to fix it.

Give yourself and him time to mourn

Here, you really have to recognize that you’re going to miss him and that when you do, you’ll zoom in on the high points of the relationship and be tempted to return. This is actually the time to go home to mom for chicken soup and lean on your friends.  Hey, you may have to reconcile yourself to the fact that although you may want to remain friends, you run the risk of losing him from your life forever.

Don’t succumb to the lure of temptation

You may have to avoid caving in to temptation. Why? It’s because, if you do, you’re pulling off the scab of a wound that is about to heal. How then do I resist it? You may ask. Hooking up, even temporarily, implies you will have to end it all over again…and you may have to be careful here.  Do a quick reality check: Yes, remind yourself of why you gave him up in the initial place, because he didn’t fit-in into your bigger picture.

Stick to your decisions, except you have a system of dumping good men

It’s often very easy to start doubting yourself after some months past and there seem not to be any new man in the board or when friends are bent on helping bring two of you back together. Sticking to your decision is a little like sticking to an exercise routine: It needs a lot of your being disciplined. You may be aching from time to time, but you know that it’s good for you in the long term.

However, how can you tell if you have made the highest mistake of your life and he is the right man for you after all? Here, you may have to check your relationship history. Hey, ask yourself…Is this something I have done more than twice, trice? Is this my pattern of relationships? The tendency that you’re sabotaging your happiness could be there. So if you often find something wrong with the men you fall in love with, you might not be allowing yourself to be in love, even though he may be the right person for you.  If this is you, then, it’s worth examining your behavior critically.

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